Signs You Might Be In A Healthy Relationship

Much of my background has been working with folks who have experienced violence in their relationships. Many of us know what this can look like from the outside; isolation, verbal or emotional abuse, financial power over your partner, physical abuse. We can get so accustomed to this experience or spotting the red flags, that we have a challenging time knowing what a healthy relationship looks and feels like. So what does a healthy relationship actually look like? 

Every relationship is unique, but there are often similar core positive attributes. Primarily, you are able to have fun together. I feel as though this is a factor that can often be underrated. The ability to genuinely enjoy each other's company, be able to laugh together, and have positive shared experiences is a huge green flag! 

The next big factor is that you should respect your partner and feel respected by them. Not only does this look like valuing their options and thoughts, but also respecting their boundaries. There are many boundaries that can come into play in an intimate relationship, and it is important that you and your partner respect and uphold them. 

Something that often comes hand in hand with respect, is the ability to speak openly and freely with your partner, without fear of punishment. You are an individual with your own autonomy and lived experiences. You deserve and have the right to share your thoughts, feelings, and opinions without being shut down or “getting into trouble”. Some of the greatest connections can come from sharing your point of view with your partner and learning about theirs. 

Finally, the biggest attribute I see in clients who have successful relationships is their ability to move forward positively after disagreements. Conflict is part of any relationship and in no way does it mean you are doomed. However, something to consider is how you and your partner move forward from these disagreements. Most healthy relationships often grow and become stronger after these hiccups; finding ways to be gentle through the reconnection, making space for each other’s feelings, and trying to understand the other person’s point of view. 

How your relationship looks and feels is unique to you and your partner, and having satisfaction to how the relationship functions is key! If you are feeling stuck, lost, or dissatisfied, I’m always here to connect.